Becoming at Peace with Toddler Regression

Becoming at peace with toddler regression

I learned of my second pregnancy right around my son’s 2nd birthday.  It was then that I became motivated to mold him into the perfect toddler.  I was fixated on getting him on a schedule that would work for me and the new baby.  Before I knew it, he was using the potty, eating balanced meals, and taking daily naps for 2+ hours!  On top of that, we locked down a strict 7:30pm bedtime which routinely occurred night after night without a fight.  

I was the perfect mama, right?  

I sure thought so… I bragged to everyone who would listen about our impressive new schedule.  Sure, I was proud of Jackson, but I was even more proud of myself.  I was on top of my mommy game and couldn’t have been more prepared to add a newborn into the mix.

Becoming at Peace with Toddler Regression

I know what you’re thinking, this is too good to be true – this woman is delusional if she thinks this schedule is going to stick.  Oh, you couldn’t be more right.  About 2 months ago, everything changed.  Jackson stopped using the potty cold turkey – I could no longer even bribe him with a prize or candy.  The balanced meals I served 3 times a day became a 24-hour buffet of snacks that he enjoyed at his leisure.  Nap time completely vanished from our days.  And worst of all, he stopped sleeping in his bed altogether, his 7:30 bedtime becoming a laughing matter.  This mama, who at one time policed the household – allowing only educational TV and organic snacks, was now spending her nights sharing Cheez-Its and watching SpongeBob until 1am.

At first I thought this change was due to the flu bug hitting our house.  Then after a couple of weeks with no progress, I began to think that this was Jackson’s way of rebelling the impending arrival of his sister.  I didn’t talk to anyone, other than my husband and mom, about the regression.  I was embarrassed and ashamed; I thought talking about it would make it even more real.  But after finally talking with friends with toddlers, I realized that Jackson’s regression in, well everything, was completely normal.  I wasn’t alone.  After weeks of feeling like a complete and utter failure of a mother, I felt normal.

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Becoming at Peace with Toddler Regression

It was easy to be the angry and frustrated mommy when I first saw all my hard work being flushed down the toilet.  But I got to a point where I realized  that toddler regression is okay.  I’m at peace with where we’re at.  How?  Because I know my son is capable of using the potty; I know my son is capable of sleeping in his own bed; I know my son is capable of eating vegetables.  I am confident that he’s not going to go off to college wearing Pull-Ups, eating a diet of only fruit snacks and Cheez-Its.  Yes, it’s not going to be easy to have two babies in diapers and sporadic sleep schedules, but I can handle it.  

They’re only little once, so why do we push our toddlers to grow up so fast?  Let them regress a little – let them be babies.  I’m confident that one day they’ll get sick of pooping in their Pull-Ups and we, as mamas, will miss those days.

Becoming at Peace with Toddler Regression

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