Hey mama, stop caring what other people think!

Hey Mama! Stop caring what other people think! | A lesson in parenting

Yesterday I felt insecure with my parenting.  After a morning of Christmas shopping with my two little ones, I thought it would be fun to take them out to lunch, just the three of us.  I was supermom!  I was on top of the world!  Until I wasn’t…

What happened next was a tale all too familiar.  I’m sure you’ve heard it before… you know, when the toddler orders food, doesn’t eat the food, then cries when the waitress cleans up said food because suddenly he decides he wants to eat it.  I was not happy.  We were having such a good day, and per usual, it had taken a turn for the worst.

I dropped a few of my favorite “momisms”…

“WE do NOT act like this in restaurants.”

“Knock it off RIGHT NOW.  You’re embarrassing me.”

“You’re going straight to bed when we get home.  No TV!  No toys!”

…not my proudest moment, but not my worst either.  We’ve all been there.  And if you haven’t, you’re either lying, or you’re a saint.

Hey Mama! Stop caring what other people think! | A lesson in parenting
Before all Hell broke loose.

The worst part was the people around us and how they reacted.  In my head, I was thinking, I need to discipline him for acting this way so people don’t think I’m raising a spoiled, entitled brat.  But the bystander reactions were quite the opposite.  The other diners and waitresses felt bad for Jackson, and in so many words, insinuated that I was a mean mommy…

“Don’t worry baby, I’m sure your mommy will make you more food when you get home.”

“Aw poor little guy’s having such a rough time.”

“I can help you, mom.  I can help you get him to eat.” {*insert eye roll emoji*}

…And then our waitress (I kid you not) handed him a dollar.  A dollar!  As a reward for?  I’m not sure what.

I felt horrible.  What did these people think of me?  Were they going to report me to CPS?  What kind of mother am I?  Did I really do anything wrong?

The answer is no.  

I made what, for me, in that moment, was the right parenting decision.  I disciplined my child for having a fit in a public place.  Caring what other people thought had made me question myself, and feel like an overall horrible mother.

When we got in the car, my son gave me the biggest hug and told me he loves me.  It was then that I realized that all that matters is how my kids feel about me, and how I feel about them.  We need to remind ourselves to ignore the outside world and stop caring what other people think.  At the end of the day, if our kids still love us, then we’re winning this game of motherhood.

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Hey Mama! Stop caring what other people think! | A lesson in parenting

8 thoughts on “Hey mama, stop caring what other people think!

  1. Ugh, bystanders! It can feel like everyone has an opinion on the decisions we make for our kids sometimes. My kids wouldn’t have been rewarded for lousy behavior either, so I’m with you!

  2. It can be so hard to stop caring about what others think! Especially when it comes to how we act and respond with our children. I’m glad that you realize it doesn’t matter what others are thinking, that can be a hard thing to get over. Good job, momma!

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