Love is My Religion: My Thoughts on Raising Kids Without Religion

Love is My Religion | My Thoughts on Raising My Kids Without Religion

I’m not a religious person.  Spiritual?  Yes.  Religious?  No.  In the words of Ziggy Marley, Love is my religion.  My husband and I have decided to raise our kids without religion.  Our primary intention in raising our children is to teach them to be good people and love one another.

Love is my religion quote

Before I get too deep, let me preface by saying that I respect religion.  To all of my friends, no matter what you believe, I respect you.  I think religion is a beautiful thing.  I understand the sense of community, fellowship, and purpose that religion brings you.  But, it’s not for me.  I’m a believer, but I don’t care to put a label on my beliefs.  I hope you can mutually respect this about me.

Naturally, religion is the basis of so many things in our modern world.  Our family celebrates most Christian holidays, because both my husband and I were raised Catholic.  We don’t attend church, but we use these days to celebrate love, family, tradition, and togetherness; four things that are oh-so-important to us.  We’re also making a conscience effort to educate ourselves and our children on holidays outside of Christianity.  And since food is one commonality that almost all holidays share, I’m all for celebrating as much as possible. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Another idea, that I think people of all religions can agree on, is the concept of the good samaritan.  Learning to be a good samaritan and overall good person is so, so important.  With so much hatred and selfishness in the world, the most important thing we can teach our children is to be kind to everyone.  To love everyone.  And I mean EVERYONE.

When I was growing up, there were many times that I would come home to cry to my mom about a bully at school.  You know, some mean girl who was making fun of my clothes, or cheating off my homework.  She taught me a valuable viewpoint that has stuck with me.  She would always say,

“You never know what’s going on at somebody’s home.  There’s always a reason why people act that way.”  

To this day, I remind myself of this anytime I encounter somebody who is less-than-pleasant.  It really helps me see the world differently and with a kinder perspective.

Why did I share this little story?  Because it’s the most important lesson I ever learned and the most important lesson I can teach my own children.  Love everybody.  Try to understand everybody.  Everybody has a story.  Everybody has their own beliefs.  There is no right or wrong religion.  It’s right to be a good person and it is wrong to be a bad person.  Simple as that.

Love is my religion.


23 thoughts on “Love is My Religion: My Thoughts on Raising Kids Without Religion

  1. Thank you for sharing this! We are also raising our son without religion. He’s still young and I know there will be questions later on, but we made the decision thoughtfully and will be a-okay with him deciding later in life if he wants to.

  2. Love never fails. You can’t go wrong with love. I love this. The good samaritan is action. Words are empty sometimes, but action proves. Thank you for posting this.

  3. Unfortunately sometimes religion can become more about hate than about love, so I think you’re doing a wonderful thing. ๐Ÿ™‚ We are Christian and teaching our children what we believe, but we are also committed to making sure that they have the opportunity to learn about ALL religions and can make their own choices later.

  4. I think your post is a very important one. I have a lot of thoughts on this topic. Thank you for having the courage to tackle this one. I think what’s most important is to raise open-minded, empathetic children. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Yes!! So much yes! We feel the same way and both of us grew up in religious settings. My husband’s literally the son of a preacher man and I went to catholic school. My daughter is raised to believe in love and kindness but not necessarily religion.

  6. You are doing a wonderful job. I’m glad you were brace enough to post this! Overall beyond what religion we are I think teaching our children about love is the most important thing.

  7. Thank you so much for writing this. The number of times that I have been chastised for not raising my child with religion is ridiculous. I really needed to know that other people are like me.

    1. Thank you for your kind words, Krysten. I’ll never understand why people think there is only one way to bring up a child. If your child is happy, healthy, and loved, then you must be doing something right! Keep up the good work, mama!

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