The #howsmama Challenge: 5 Questions to Ask the New Mamas in Your Life


In the past year, I’ve become very passionate about an unexpected topic: postpartum depression.  After having my second baby, I struggled with moodiness, anxiety, and irritability.  I was the mom weeping while watching a diaper commercial.  Being that this wasn’t my first rodeo, I knew that I wasn’t dealing with the typical post-pregnancy hormones.  Something just wasn’t right.

I never felt more alone.  Nobody but me seemed to realize that there was a problem.  Ultimately, since nobody asked, I had to diagnose myself and take action.  I wrote more about my experience with postpartum depression in this article on Detroit Moms Blog.

Instead of wallowing in my experience, I’m making a pact with myself to do something about it.  I’m turning my passion into action.  Nobody asked me how I was doing, so I’m challenging YOU to ask these 5 important questions to the new mamas in your life:

I know the baby’s great, but how’s mama?

How are you really doing?

Are you feeling overwhelmed?

Do you need any help?

Have you touched base with your doctor/midwife since the baby was born?

I can’t stress this enough – ask these questions, wait a week, and then ask them again.  Because behind the smile and the perfect baby, a lot of new moms are experiencing postpartum depression and anxiety.  In fact, according to the CDC, 1 in 9 mothers experience postpartum depression.  Moms might put on a tough exterior, but the truth is sometimes we’re crumbling on the inside

Sharing the knowledge: the #howsmama campaign

In addition to asking those vital questions to the new mothers in your life, there’s one more thing I’m asking you to do: spread the word!  We hear about postpartum depression all the time, but what we don’t hear about is how we can help.  Let’s share the knowledge and teach others the difference they can make by asking a simple question.

#howsmama | How to help new moms with postpartum depression | ppd

Please print this sign (or make your own) with the hashtag: #howsmama.  Post it, share it, and repeat on all of your social media platforms.  Explain to your friends and family how important it is to ask questions beyond the baby.  Tell them how simple it is to just ask “How’s mama?”  

Even if you aren’t a mom, I’m challenging you.  Nobody should feel alone when it comes to postpartum depression.  Ask the questions and share the hashtag.  #howsmama

Print your #howsmama sign here:

35 thoughts on “The #howsmama Challenge: 5 Questions to Ask the New Mamas in Your Life

    1. So true, Diedre. Too often people are focussed on the baby, which is important, but mama’s well-being is important too. Thank you for your support, I’d love to see your own #howsmama picture posted on Instagram. The best thing we can do is spread awareness. <3

  1. I’ve had five and I can tell you, this is wonderful advice! Now I’m a single mom (that wasn’t in the plans) and I often wish someone would ask #howsmama. Great campaign!

    1. Such a great point, Lisa. Motherhood is hard in all stages of life. People need to ask how we are more often. I’d love to see your own #howsmama picture posted on Instagram. The more awareness we can bring to PPD, the more likely we are to break the stigma.

  2. Thank you for this post. I have never experience PPD but I have friends who have. Thank you for giving helpful questions and thank you for sharing your experience and bringing awareness.

    1. Thank you for your support, Jessica. I’d love to see your own #howsmama picture posted on Instagram. I truly believe we can make an impact if we spread awareness together. <3

  3. I love this so much! I experienced some pretty significant PPD after my fourth baby was born, and recently opened up about it on my blog. The newborn phase is hard and we need to start asking ‘how’s mama’ more. Thank you for sharing this and starting this campaign.

    1. Amanda, motherhood is hard. With 4 kids, you know how different each pregnancy is and how important it is to keep asking the questions – whether it’s a mom’s first or tenth baby! Thanks for your support, I’d love to see your #howsmama picture posted on Instagram. The best thing we can do is spread awareness. <3

    1. We have to redefine our definition of what a “good mom” looks like. Thanks for reading, Jessica. I’d love to see your own #howsmama photo on Instagram. Spread the love. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Thanks for sharing, Nicole! I’d love to see your face with a #howsmama sign on Instagram as well. It’s so much easier for our friends and family to put a familiar face to a cause. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Yes! Our natural first instinct is to tell everyone we’re fine. After a little prodding, we open up. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  4. I dealt with post partum depression and anxiety after the birth of all three of my children, so I love this campaign. Such an important cause to bring attention to and remove stigma from!

    1. Thanks, Kate. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this 3 times over. It’s such a difficult time in our lives, and you are truly a survivor! I’d love for you to share your story with your own #howsmama photo. It’s so much easier for our friends and family to empathize with a cause when they can put a familiar face to it.

  5. This is really cool and what a great idea! I still wonder if I had a bout of this with my first baby girl? I just had my third baby girl and things are so much different now. I definitely agree with you about asking mom’s how they are doing!
    xo, Nicole

  6. PPD is no joke! I’m so glad there’s more awareness being brought to it. Mamas are under so much pressure these days, our well being shouldn’t be ignored. Love the suggestions for my new mama friends!

    1. It’s so refreshing to see more women (especially celebrities) bringing attention to the issue. I’d so appreciate your support in spreading awareness, by posting your own #howsmama photo! <3

  7. I’m not a mama but I maybe will be someday! I admire this campaign because it’s not always easy to make others understand a condition that they can’t see. Good luck!

    1. Thanks, Jill. Please feel free to share with your friends and family. You never know who you are going to touch. ๐Ÿ™‚

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