I’m done having babies. There, I said it. Before you give me the “but, you’re so young” or “you’ll change your mind” lecture, stop right there. Trust me, my mind is made up. I’m done having babies. When you’re done, you just know it.
Growing up, I always imagined myself having a big family. I thought I wanted 4 or 5 kids. I’m 1 of 3 kids, and so is my husband. Naturally, I thought we’d have more than 2 kids. But now that my 2 perfect babies are here, I feel 100% complete. I get that other women don’t feel the same way – I can totally relate, as I didn’t feel 100% complete after having my first. But now that I have two, I know I’m done.
I am not sad. I thought I would be. I have always wanted to be a mother and I have always loved babies. Just because I know I’m done having babies of my own, doesn’t mean any of this has changed. I still love being a mom. I mean truly, I love it. I’m the mom who actually enjoys getting down on the floor to play Candyland with my preschooler. I also still love babies. To all of my friends planning to have more babies in the future, I can’t wait to spoil and snuggle them!
In this moment, with my own 2 babies, I’m soaking in everything about them. I want to remember their little voices as they’re learning to talk. I want to remember the way their hair smells as I cuddle them after a bath. I want to remember the way they look at me in the morning, with huge gummy smiles on their faces. If I were to add another baby into the mix, I’m not sure I’d have enough time and attention to remember all of these little details. I know lots of mothers who are capable of this, and I think they are amazing human beings! I just know myself, and I know that I can get overwhelmed very quickly.
To anyone reading this and isn’t connecting with what I am saying, I have news for you: you’re probably not done having babies. You might be on the fence about it (and that’s okay!), but you should probably wait before making any permanent decisions. For those of you totally getting where I’m coming from, congratulations! It is such a great feeling to know that you are done having babies.